It's at least comforting to see that there's some consensus about seeing things from this side. I agree that the attitude in the room *has* gotten out of hand, especially in terms of behavior towards newbies. The room has always been a bit harsh towards new people, partially to filter out the glut of morons, but never in such an overtly malicious and aggressive way. And trying to reason with the general attitude in the room is pretty much futile - I at least tried to be civil and honest about my feelings on the room, and you can see what that got me. I realize that I took part in some of the flaming originally, and that I could easily be looked upon as a hypocrite, but when I saw it becoming completely unreasonable I decided I wanted no part of it.
I don't mean to be intrusive on the whole matter, but this is what I told a few other people in the same situation: Your best bet is probably to keep in touch with the people you're closest to in there, who are reasonable enough not to be combative and defensive about your opinion about the room, and stop going for at least a little while. I've managed to preserve several of my good friendships from chat, and although I discovered that a few people I considered close reacted belligerently to my leaving I consider it a good thing that I've left. You might, unfortunately, discover that some people quickly change their attitude toward you, but it's probably better that you find it out sooner rather than later.
I apologize for posting another lengthy diatribe on the subject on your livejournal, but I just figured I'd let you know that more than a few people agree with you on the subject and that you do have support in your opinion. If you want to respond, email me at ubik@purdue.edu... if you don't want to, no problem.
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Date: 2001-06-20 06:43 pm (UTC)I don't mean to be intrusive on the whole matter, but this is what I told a few other people in the same situation: Your best bet is probably to keep in touch with the people you're closest to in there, who are reasonable enough not to be combative and defensive about your opinion about the room, and stop going for at least a little while. I've managed to preserve several of my good friendships from chat, and although I discovered that a few people I considered close reacted belligerently to my leaving I consider it a good thing that I've left. You might, unfortunately, discover that some people quickly change their attitude toward you, but it's probably better that you find it out sooner rather than later.
I apologize for posting another lengthy diatribe on the subject on your livejournal, but I just figured I'd let you know that more than a few people agree with you on the subject and that you do have support in your opinion. If you want to respond, email me at ubik@purdue.edu... if you don't want to, no problem.
Adios, and I hope to hear from you sometime. :)
-Ubik