Curiousity like a nun or a negress or a girl with glasses

Wow, I don't know. I always resented acts of control over me a lot, spankings and yelling, but when it comes to sex in true love, I don't really do dom or sub in the classic sense, I don't think.... I like switching places, I like both, I like either/or or neither/nor. I see the appeal of both and neither, and I've done it all in that respect. I've tied and been tied and it can be very cool both ways.... The only real relationship I had with a woman was very clear-cut role-playing and I hated it. For her it had to be dominant or submissive, *really* - all the stuff that can go with it, and I consented because I thought maybe it would be cool, who knew. With her it was fucked up, she liked to be submissive and play the victim.... to get control over me, in the end. Not only in sex but in all other aspects of life and relationships - this was her weapon: guilt, submission, pain and dominance through victimhood. It was FUCKED. I skedaddled. I know role-playing, real dominance and submission can be very exciting, and I've been in situations where it was, but I tend to associate dom/sub with her sometimes.... at least as far as its dangers go.

Then again I was rarely spanked or hit at all as a kid, so maybe I don't have any real perception of it associated with this.... Um, I like sex, I like love, a lot, and I'll leave it at that :) IT RULES!