Stating the obvious
Mar. 15th, 2002 04:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
blustockingIt just struck me how horrifying it must be to be a parent, so easy to fuck up, SO many factors involved.
I realized this when I asked the simple question "Were you spanked as a child?" and saw that some of us were not only spanked, but...worse.
If I didn't want to have kids before, now I'm super-scared. I don't want to fuck anyone else up. Though I know that I would NEVER beat my children, it's just amazing the amount of tolerance, fairness, foresight, and just plain common sense it takes to raise a child right. And it's even more amazing how many people do it without thinking about any of this.
My sister gets down on herself because she doesn't have a job. She's spent the last 16 years raising my wonderful niece and nephew. But I keep telling her, Kim, look at what a great job you've done. You've added two wonderful human beings to the world, and we need 'em. She's involved in their lives and knows how to discipline without being overly harsh. I only hope that if, for some ungodly reason, it happens that I do end up with children, I can do as well as my parents and my sister have done.
But right now, I think I'm way too selfish.
I realized this when I asked the simple question "Were you spanked as a child?" and saw that some of us were not only spanked, but...worse.
If I didn't want to have kids before, now I'm super-scared. I don't want to fuck anyone else up. Though I know that I would NEVER beat my children, it's just amazing the amount of tolerance, fairness, foresight, and just plain common sense it takes to raise a child right. And it's even more amazing how many people do it without thinking about any of this.
My sister gets down on herself because she doesn't have a job. She's spent the last 16 years raising my wonderful niece and nephew. But I keep telling her, Kim, look at what a great job you've done. You've added two wonderful human beings to the world, and we need 'em. She's involved in their lives and knows how to discipline without being overly harsh. I only hope that if, for some ungodly reason, it happens that I do end up with children, I can do as well as my parents and my sister have done.
But right now, I think I'm way too selfish.
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Date: 2002-03-15 04:50 pm (UTC)From the earliest age of being punished I was told to stand in the corner. No big deal there, that's like "time out" except that you are facing the wall. But, when I got to be too big for that like around 7 or 8...my parents used to make me kneel on the kitchen linoleum floor for whatever time they deemed necessary. Whether that be 30 minutes or and hour and a half. Go ahead...try it for two minutes....it fucking HURTS. There was no padding, just the floor and then my knees.....and I also had to do this facing a wall. No talking. It's completely fucked up. I don't really have any bad feelings for my parents for doing this since they were both raised up in very old-school disciplined surroundings or whatnot. But I will NEVER make my child ever do ANYTHING like this ever. Whether that has influenced the way I think today in anysort of fetish form or fashion, I have no idea.
As an adult, I have never been spanked. Never had the opportunity.