Stating the obvious
Mar. 15th, 2002 04:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
blustockingIt just struck me how horrifying it must be to be a parent, so easy to fuck up, SO many factors involved.
I realized this when I asked the simple question "Were you spanked as a child?" and saw that some of us were not only spanked, but...worse.
If I didn't want to have kids before, now I'm super-scared. I don't want to fuck anyone else up. Though I know that I would NEVER beat my children, it's just amazing the amount of tolerance, fairness, foresight, and just plain common sense it takes to raise a child right. And it's even more amazing how many people do it without thinking about any of this.
My sister gets down on herself because she doesn't have a job. She's spent the last 16 years raising my wonderful niece and nephew. But I keep telling her, Kim, look at what a great job you've done. You've added two wonderful human beings to the world, and we need 'em. She's involved in their lives and knows how to discipline without being overly harsh. I only hope that if, for some ungodly reason, it happens that I do end up with children, I can do as well as my parents and my sister have done.
But right now, I think I'm way too selfish.
I realized this when I asked the simple question "Were you spanked as a child?" and saw that some of us were not only spanked, but...worse.
If I didn't want to have kids before, now I'm super-scared. I don't want to fuck anyone else up. Though I know that I would NEVER beat my children, it's just amazing the amount of tolerance, fairness, foresight, and just plain common sense it takes to raise a child right. And it's even more amazing how many people do it without thinking about any of this.
My sister gets down on herself because she doesn't have a job. She's spent the last 16 years raising my wonderful niece and nephew. But I keep telling her, Kim, look at what a great job you've done. You've added two wonderful human beings to the world, and we need 'em. She's involved in their lives and knows how to discipline without being overly harsh. I only hope that if, for some ungodly reason, it happens that I do end up with children, I can do as well as my parents and my sister have done.
But right now, I think I'm way too selfish.
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Date: 2002-03-18 01:25 pm (UTC)Every time I think about possibly having a kid someday, I think of yet another reason why it would be so damn life-altering. There is the health risks it poses to my wife, the money it costs, all the responsibility, etc...
It blows my mind that some people have 3 or more kids at my age (27) already. I just feel too immature still to care for a child. Plus, we like the option of going anywhere we want, anytime we want. I am shocked at how lightly people take this decision sometimes. It is unfathomable.