but then my parents were unecessarily rough when I was a teenager....so it depends on what you're talking about.
sometimes, in my opinion, you can't reason with a very small child...and they may be in the middle of doing things that could hurt them. A quick, controlled, unemotional pop on the BUTT (NO where else) will get their attention. If a parent spanks in anger, they shouldn't be spanking. It may it'll happen once or twice, because parents are human...but if you can't spank a child in a calm, controlled manner...and you're just doing it to release stress or anger...you need to relinguish spanking duties to the other parent (which I may have to do), or find a different way to get kids attention. It shouldn't be to hurt a child...it should be like when you bop a puppy or a cat...it's the noise, and the surprise that you did something like that that should get their attention...not the pain.
I'm all about time-outs.
my mother HATED spanking. We always got time outs when we were really little. when my brother was little, he wouldn't stay in his room. (I always just sat in there and played when I had a time out...but that boy is a rebel) He's come out, and wander right into mom...like he was proud that he disobeyed her. She used to have to hold the door closed until she could hear that he'd calmed down. ^_^ she'd be standing there, heels dug in, clasping the door knob saying "brandon, go sit down! you'll get out once you calm down for a little while!" while he pulled and yelled on the other side. Eventually he'd calm down, come out, and act as though nothing had happened.
disciplining a kid takes a lot of time, effort, and patience. If anyone is looking for a quick and easy way to get kids to do what they say...they shouldn't be parents.
disciplining a kid takes a lot of time, effort, and patience. If anyone is looking for a quick and easy way to get kids to do what they say...they shouldn't be parents.
I completely agree with you. My parents would agree with you as well, which is why they're awesome parents. My mom, mostly, though. Because my dad did some majorly regrettable things when I was a kid that I only forgave him for a few years ago.
He was a good parent too, though. Bad husband, but good parent.
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Date: 2002-03-15 05:57 am (UTC)but then my parents were unecessarily rough when I was a teenager....so it depends on what you're talking about.
sometimes, in my opinion, you can't reason with a very small child...and they may be in the middle of doing things that could hurt them. A quick, controlled, unemotional pop on the BUTT (NO where else) will get their attention. If a parent spanks in anger, they shouldn't be spanking. It may it'll happen once or twice, because parents are human...but if you can't spank a child in a calm, controlled manner...and you're just doing it to release stress or anger...you need to relinguish spanking duties to the other parent (which I may have to do), or find a different way to get kids attention. It shouldn't be to hurt a child...it should be like when you bop a puppy or a cat...it's the noise, and the surprise that you did something like that that should get their attention...not the pain.
I'm all about time-outs.
my mother HATED spanking. We always got time outs when we were really little. when my brother was little, he wouldn't stay in his room. (I always just sat in there and played when I had a time out...but that boy is a rebel) He's come out, and wander right into mom...like he was proud that he disobeyed her. She used to have to hold the door closed until she could hear that he'd calmed down. ^_^ she'd be standing there, heels dug in, clasping the door knob saying "brandon, go sit down! you'll get out once you calm down for a little while!" while he pulled and yelled on the other side. Eventually he'd calm down, come out, and act as though nothing had happened.
disciplining a kid takes a lot of time, effort, and patience. If anyone is looking for a quick and easy way to get kids to do what they say...they shouldn't be parents.
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Date: 2002-03-15 02:02 pm (UTC)I completely agree with you. My parents would agree with you as well, which is why they're awesome parents. My mom, mostly, though. Because my dad did some majorly regrettable things when I was a kid that I only forgave him for a few years ago.
He was a good parent too, though. Bad husband, but good parent.