Punishment

[blustocking]

Were you spanked as a child?

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[neobitch.livejournal.com]

Yes. And thwacked on the behind with a wooden spoon. Never underestimate a mother's Spoon-Fu.

[haddob.livejournal.com]

I got the wooden PASTA spoon, with the little wooden pegs on it. There were always some of the pegs missing and my grandmother would say "They gone because of the naughty little boys like you break them off!" I grew up thinking it was Italian custon to him kids with spoons.

[qat.livejournal.com]

Maybe it is, of sorts. I have several friends who came from Italian-American first or second generation families, and their moms all whacked them with the big pasta spoon.

[neobitch.livejournal.com]

Ouch. I didn't have to worry about pegs, at least. ;)

My dad stuck to spankings -- when we were Really Really Bad, mom would send my brother or I to dad, to get a spanking. She was more the smack-onna-butt sort, or a slap to the face if we were mouthy, or the High Mistress of Spoon-Fu.

[haddob.livejournal.com]

My earlier post was riddled with typos, I'm sad.

My dad was also the one who seemed to dish out the physical punishment. He'd always throw things at me, like remote controls. He's not a nice guy. He kicked the cats. Moms seem to be better at punishment, all they have to do is say things like "I'm so disappointed in you." Or give you that motherly look of disapproval.

[blustocking.livejournal.com]

Oh my, my Dad has the best look ever. All he has to do is look at me like that and I stop(ped) dead in my tracks. I think my Mom is the one who whacked me with the paint stick, but Dad just gave me that look. I hope I have that look. It would make punishing children so much easier and safer.

hmmm

[lolahead.livejournal.com]

I was only spanked once or twice...but I was threatened often...with my mother's HUGE hair brush (on the spikey side)

[cinzazul.livejournal.com]

Repeatedly. Today, I am a well adjusted member of society. These issues may be mutually exclusive.

why you ask?

[squeakyrix.livejournal.com]

yeh...and then some.

[rainstories.livejournal.com]

yes, 'till about the age of twelve i think. i was a brat.

Spanked?

[locopuff.livejournal.com]

More times than I can count. Many, many, MANY MANY more. But I think "spanking" is a little understatement.

[catwoman980.livejournal.com]

no, not really.

but then my parents were unecessarily rough when I was a teenager....so it depends on what you're talking about.

sometimes, in my opinion, you can't reason with a very small child...and they may be in the middle of doing things that could hurt them. A quick, controlled, unemotional pop on the BUTT (NO where else) will get their attention. If a parent spanks in anger, they shouldn't be spanking. It may it'll happen once or twice, because parents are human...but if you can't spank a child in a calm, controlled manner...and you're just doing it to release stress or anger...you need to relinguish spanking duties to the other parent (which I may have to do), or find a different way to get kids attention. It shouldn't be to hurt a child...it should be like when you bop a puppy or a cat...it's the noise, and the surprise that you did something like that that should get their attention...not the pain.

I'm all about time-outs.

my mother HATED spanking. We always got time outs when we were really little. when my brother was little, he wouldn't stay in his room. (I always just sat in there and played when I had a time out...but that boy is a rebel) He's come out, and wander right into mom...like he was proud that he disobeyed her. She used to have to hold the door closed until she could hear that he'd calmed down. ^_^ she'd be standing there, heels dug in, clasping the door knob saying "brandon, go sit down! you'll get out once you calm down for a little while!" while he pulled and yelled on the other side. Eventually he'd calm down, come out, and act as though nothing had happened.

disciplining a kid takes a lot of time, effort, and patience. If anyone is looking for a quick and easy way to get kids to do what they say...they shouldn't be parents.

[nejgasmo.livejournal.com]

disciplining a kid takes a lot of time, effort, and patience. If anyone is looking for a quick and easy way to get kids to do what they say...they shouldn't be parents.

I completely agree with you. My parents would agree with you as well, which is why they're awesome parents. My mom, mostly, though. Because my dad did some majorly regrettable things when I was a kid that I only forgave him for a few years ago.

He was a good parent too, though. Bad husband, but good parent.

[qat.livejournal.com]

My parents apparently spanked me when I was really little, lightly to let me know I did something wrong, and once my mom caught herself slamming my body against the wall repeatedly as she yelled at me to be good and I stared at her stony-faced. She filed for divorce from my dad about a week later, as she figured she was cracking; I was two. When I was six my dad spanked me for doing something bad, and then he cried and promised to never do it again and apologized over and over. My mom slapped me some when I was mouthy, from ages 7-12; I never was hit after that age except by a boyfriend :) I would not say either of my parents were big on spanking. Yelling, yes, and the few times I was spanked or slapped I thought were easier than the many many times I was screamed at. But maybe I'd feel differently if it were vice versa.

[filleinvisible.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah. And that may explain why i like being spanked as an adult.

[blustocking.livejournal.com]

That's...sort of, what I'm getting at.

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[filleinvisible.livejournal.com]

LOL!!!

[mort.livejournal.com]

yessiree.

[(Anonymous)]

Hi, Blu...rueyeet here. It was an interesting topic, so I sully your LiveJournal with my ramblings.

My dad is first-generation Italian, but somehow it was always all-American Mom who threatened to get out Grandma's wooden spoon. She never used it on me, because my sister had warned me that these were no idle threats.

Spanking in our household was a highly ritualized affair. After Dad got home, Mom would tell him whatever either of us did, then Dad would lecture the offender at length, and after standing there for the eternity of anticipation, we'd be called forward for the actual spanking. By then, a couple of light slaps was enough to get the message across. It was always used as a punishment of last resort, and never in anger or the heat of the moment. As you can tell, my parents went for the psychological approach over the physical.

Curious question, though. Why the interest?

The more the merrier!

[blustocking.livejournal.com]

See following posts for the interest. Very interesting form of punishment in your household though. Do you hold any resentment towards your parents? Do you think that form of punishment influenced you later in life? Do you feel it was just and fair?

Sorry for all of the questions. :)

[ericjevitts.livejournal.com]

in the face... pretty hard a few times.


but I was a bad kid..... I still love&respect my stepdad.


I will never hit my kids though, the fear it put in me was horrible, its much worse than the pain itself. Nobody should be afraid of their parents.

[blustocking.livejournal.com]

Being smacked in the face carries a higher emotional toll than on the bottom, it seems...at least to me. Do you think you would feel the same had it not been a smack to the face?

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[ericjevitts.livejournal.com]

if it was on my butt it wouldn't have scared me so much...

you're right about the face.

[nejgasmo.livejournal.com]

I guess I'm the only one who can say "nope, never." My parents didn't believe in it. I'm a lucky one, I am.

i can say that too

[haddob.livejournal.com]

my parents always treated my brother and I like people, rather than crooked little things that need straightening

[http://users.livejournal.com/_nikki/]

I never was either

Random comment.

[patina.livejournal.com]

*wanders onto Blu's journal*
Yep. I was spanked too. With belts and switches cut from trees.
It was probably neccessary when I was too young to understand "no" and I appreciate that my dad was always calm when he did it, but it was humiliating when he said "This is the only way we can make you understand."

your mom says...

[blustocking.livejournal.com]

YOU ARE NOW MY FRIEND. ENJOY!

XD

thanks!

[patina.livejournal.com]

I do the thank-you dance out on your front lawn.

Re: thanks!

[blustocking.livejournal.com]

Holy crap! I thought my garden gnome had come to life. *phew*